In the past few years, I’ve noticed a trend in traditionally published novels by Christian authors:
Emphasis on physical attraction. To be specific, too much emphasis.
To start, there is nothing wrong with noticing someone is, well, physically attractive. Nothing wrong with noticing they have pretty hair or pretty eyes and even telling them such isn’t exactly wrong in and of itself.
The problem is when a simple notice or a genuine compliment starts turning into not-so-appropriate thoughts. (In other words, lust)
Another problem is when physical attraction becomes the basis for the relationship.
Relationships are based in things like actually getting to know the other, whether it be by talking or putting together a puzzle or roller-skating. Communication is also key. Another thing relationships are based in is the things you have in common, like writing or painting or reading, etc.
That’s the stuff that actually creates bonds between people. Having things in common leads to talking about it, and talking about it leads to doing those things together.
(Honestly, that applies to friendship as well, not just romance, but since I’m talking about romance in this post…)
Another important thing: Be friends first – good friends. Because all the best romances start in the friendzone. xD
Most importantly, a relationship in a Christian novel needs to be God-centered. Put God first, then your significant other.
That is…pretty much all I got right now. I may eventually expand on some of these.
Tell me your thoughts below!